February Newsletter 2021


Welcome to my February newsletter, which is a portal into my brain of during the past month. This is a way for me to communicate to my friends and family. Moreover, it is way of recording my thoughts in a manner that I hope will help me and others in the future.

This is my first newsletter

This is my very first newsletter. The inspiration for writing a newsletter came from a human who codes, also know as Nicholas C. Zakas. Nicholas sends a newsletter every month. He shares what he is thinking, reading, watching and working on. My plan is start with something similar, and let the newsletter evolve with what works for me.

Im thinking about child rearing

For the past month, my thoughts have gravitated towards Vilje. I am reluctant to send her to kindergarden. Since reading "Hold on to your Kids", I have been able to follow a gradual change on my view of our child institutions.

I cannot drop her off anymore without it leaving a bad taste in my mouth anymore. I wish Christina and I could keep her home much more than we do now. If we can move to Bornholm by then end of the year it should ease some of my concerns.

Vilje has entered a curious stage that took me by surprise. She asks questions like she always does, but with every answer I give her, she follows it up with, "by why is that?" I find this both amusing but also challenging. My stubbornness and ego wants to be able to answer everything she can think of. Yet, I often end up cornering myself. I start off by showing my knowledge of the sciences, and as we reach my limit, it all comes crashing down. To the amusement of Christina.

All these questions have helped me reevaluate my mental models, and how little I know. There is something powerful about the inquisitive nature of a two year old.

I read "Hold on to your kids"

During the few days after new years I finished "Hold on to Your Kids - Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers". Written by Gordon Neufeld and Dr. Gabor Maté. A developmental psychologist, and physician with special interest in childhood development and trauma. It made a big impact on how I view my role as a parent.

I would recommend this book to anyone who has children, regardless of age. As a matter of fact, recommended it today to Hans, a potential colleague in Upright. There is nothing that can prepare you for what it feels like to become a parent. This book covers what I would argue is one of the most important aspects of parenting. Your relationship with your child.

I listened to Snowdens first book

It's been a while since I have binged any podcasts. This are too many books that I want to read right now. Audiobooks let me consume books at times when reading is not practical. This month I gave Edward Snowden's first book "Permanent Record" a go.

I must say, it was better than expected. I see Snowden as model citizen, especially in these times, but I did not expect to be so captivated by the book. Snowden gives you detailed account of his life up until the revelations. He explains which things led him to give up your life. Or rather, your old life, by becoming a whistleblower.

I am working with pen and paper again

This month I went back to an analog method for helping me plan my day and work. I found an old notebook and started making a list every day. It is a list where unfinished items from the previous day get carried over or and completed one crossed out. I find it to be very satisfying to check things off of a list. It calms me to know that I do not have to juggle or remember more things in my mind than is possible.

Thanks for reading,

Troels.